Chief Doctrines Of Influential Life

Our success depends upon the impressive nature whether it is house, family, workplace or our social life contributes to our growth. Whenever and wherever we happen to lose the factor of impression, our entire personality is marked by the dark clouds of uncertainty. Without the impressive personality we are unable to achieve our pre-determined goals, although we can re-define our personality by little efforts of labour, intelligence and alertness. We can add magical powers and charisma in our personality to such an extent that whosoever comes in contact with us remains transfixed to the ground and wherever we are unable to reach, a word of mouth should be in circulation–where is he? Why is he not coming, etc. How can we make ourselves more impressive? Let us see.

SELFLESS LOVE AND DEVOTION

Fill thy mind with ME, be thou my devotee, worship ME, and bow down to Me, thus steadfastly uniting thy heart with Me alone and regarding Me as thy Supreme Goal, thou shall come into Me.

True Elegance in Personality

We can further bring a refined touch of elegance in our personalities by redefining our talents and capabilities. Refined personality is the most valuable asset of our life. Physically, we may be of any shape, size, creed and colour–it’s God’s gift, but to make it balanced and attractive we can play an important role. Our manners reveal our characters for others to formulate an opinion about us. Our way of dressing, the way of talking also leaves an impression on general public.
Do not laugh open mouth when in a company. If the need be, just give a sweet smile. Yes, there are certain occasions where you can laugh loudly. Always keep in mind that unnecessary laughing reveals the deficiency of your personality. Such people are coined with the term of a fool or a clown. Laughing loudly and without reasons is considered equally bad as that of having a gloomy face in a party. Such people are considered to be inauspicious to have around. The real beauty lies not in seriousness but in cheerfulness. We should always reciprocate the feelings and thoughts of other persons. Many people possess large teeth. It is advised to keep the hand in front of the mouth while laughing. A point of caution is that it should appear natural rather than being purposely done for.

• Do not yawn in between a conversation. If it cannot be avoided, courtesy demands to apologise for the same by saying ‘Excuse me.’
• Quite often, you may come across a person whom you do not like or do not want to meet in a gathering or a party. If confronted with, be polite enough to say ‘Excuse me’ and move away.
• While in any engaging conversation, if you happen to sneeze, courtesy demands to say the words ‘sorry.’
• Breathing heavily, grunting, whistling or making a noise with your feet or fingers is against the etiquette in a gathering.

Think Before You Speak
There is an old saying:-
“Gar na ho matlab Nikaal mat lab se”
The meaning is quite evident that do not give advice until and unless asked for. We should always speak thoughtfully and with a pause. If we remember this fact and put it into practice, we shall be saved from harrowing experience and nightmares as compared to those people who advise freely.

• If anybody questions formally, do not venture into details for the reply.
• Do not converse unnecessarily. Many a time people venture into detailed discussions of the parentage on the answer to a simple ‘hello’ and it leads to uncomfortable position of the opponent.
• Do not discuss your personal relations, debts, diseases and jealousies in a public place and especially not speaking loudly.
• We should always keep those facts, which are true and in favour. Sometimes irrelevant things are added which weakens our stands, and should always be avoided. Should we be proven wrong on any point, we should always change our stand.
• If a person loses the eye contact regularly or the interval in the conversation is increasing, it should be judged that either person is not interested.
• Before starting any talks, a proper introduction should always be given lest your talks shoulod be concluded in a different meaning or probably go waste.
• Some people are in a habit of talking; such people talk for hours together irrespective of the subject, relevant or irrelevant does not matter; we should always be precise and to the point while conveying a message.
• We should not give advice until and unless demanded for.
• When two people are busy talking, do not jump into the talk.
• Do not peep into the book, magazine or newspaper of your co-passenger while travelling in a train or bus, nor give your opinion about the book read by you in case the co-passenger is reading. Maybe he would not like it.
• In case you are participating in a group discussion speak less and listen more. Others should not feel that the opportunity has not been provided to speak.
• Do not get excited or lose your patience during the course of discussion on an explosive subject or a controversial issue.
• Rolling of your eyes, shaking of your head, freely moving of hands and shaking of your body in a dancing manner is unadvisable and awkward-looking.
• Do not try to cut the statement of others, nor should you suddenly change the topic of discussion.
• Keep you voice low and the words clear with right pronunciation while speaking to others.
• During conversation make sure there are no lines on your forehead; otherwise, the opponent would think that you are angry or under tension.
• Do not keep your hands on your mouth while speaking; it reflects a lack of self-confidence.
• Always speak wisely. Do not speak superfluously nor believe in superstitions or trust them.
• Don’t try to eavesdrop.
• Certain people have the habit of repeating a particular word time and again; it’s not a good habit.
• Some people keep repeating their sentences very often, which is not desirable; it should be avoided.
• We should speak and write these words which can be authenticated always.
• Unless and until we are sure about the vocabulary of new words, we should avoid using them.
• Whatever, whichever, wherever we say, people often speak on similar lines about us which would be an index of our social status.
• As per your age and the grace of occasion, your conversation should always have warmth, hesitation, seriousness and reflection of self-confidence.
  
• Etiquettes of Telephone
  
• The way of talking on the telephone reflects your etiquettes and manners. It speaks of your personality too; you may come across so many persons, who do not know how to behave while conversing on a telephone. One of the factors of which people are impressed is the etiquettes of a telephone conversation.
• Never engage yourself to a phone unnecessarily. Be brief, give or take the message clearly and permanently. You may never know, that someone is anxious to give other message of perhaps more importance, but could not do so, because of the engaged telephone.
• Whenever talking from your office or a friend’s place always be brief and short. Do not prolong you talks. If possible, avoid using these personal contacts.
• Do not utilize S.T.D. facilities from your friends or office telephone.
• While talking from an STD booth, see to it that your voice is low and calm. Convenience of other people around you is of prime importance. If in case your number is being held up or false tone is going then give others a chance.
• Wait for you turn while talking from a phone booth. Should you feel that other person has been talking for quite some time then slowly knock at the door to signal as regards to the time.
• Many times, certain people are in a habit of switching off the telephone sets while going to bed; it may be a matter of rest for them, but many a time they often pay high price for this act of their foolishness.
• Even though if the telephone facility is offered free of cost, you should convey precisely. Telephone is not for conferences; it is meant for a sort talk and messages.
  Love Yourself
• Man is the most important creation of God. Every person should take pride in himself. You should always know your importance and utility. There is an old saying that a person who does not know his value shall not be in a position to evaluate others. Thus recognize yourself and your potentialities, and try to find means to make yourself more valuable to the self and the society.
• We should be able to detach ourselves from self and should develop this quality/attitude. Under these circumstances when we love ourselves, i.e. our characteristics, etc. the most beautiful and interesting right, because here we can choose those factors, which we have been looking for but were never in a position to adopt them. We should be an ideal for ourselves; then and only then we can show the light to others to follow.
• Most of us have a weakness of teaching ourselves with partiality and others with bias. Our mistake appears to be very small, while the other’s mistake is a big blunder.
• Whenever we are stuck up in a traffic jam, we are able to drive inch by inch as and when the space is made. Similarly we are the drive of our human like body vehicle. There are many such occasions, where on the path of progress, we get stuck up. Then with the help of our cool and calm mind, we should move ahead slowly and continuously as the path gets cleaned of the hurdles.

Influence In Your Workplace
Needless to say, most of the people are in the service of other persons. Many people win accolades and launch in the place of their work, and there is no dearth of such people too, who became a failure at their workplace or were not liked by office colleagues. A unsuccessful person at his workplace mostly is not aware of the fundamental rules and regulations. You can also become a most loveable and respected person at your workplace. Let us examine:

• Always follow the rules and etiquettes of office.
• You should determine that dressing is a crucial aspect of official decorum. A person should be dressed neatly and satiable to the occasion.
• This factor should always be kept in mind that the time spent in the office is owned by our employees. They are no masters; hence, we should not be dishonest to any work or master. We neither gossip, nor work on our personal affairs.
• If the other person is simple and labourious we should not overload him with our work.
• Service should always be punctual. We are able to impress others by our going and coming on time. A person strictly adhering to punctuality norm is not defeated.
• Always exercise a sense of discipline in your personality. You should not have any loose ends. A balanced co-ordination should clearly be visible in process of your thoughts, tasks and maintenance.
• Our work should be systematic and accomplished within the prescribed time period. By doing so the work is finished earlier and is of good quality.
• We should never misguide our boss/manager at the place of work, as truth always surfaces, and once branded wrong, this impression remains for ever.
• Mono type people are not liked at working environment. Such people are non-adjustable and hence, meet with failure often.
• We should be equalily familiar with our work and its good and bad points. Should a situation arise unexpected of boss questioning the probability of working more efficiently, the answer should be satisfactory.
• We should specialize in our field of work and constantly upgrading our knowledge and information in respect to an area of working.
• Our relations with our colleagues should always be cordial and smooth as and when the time demands; we should not fail to help them.
• There is no doubt that everyone cannot perform the entire work; therefore, we should know the art of delegation of this work to our juniors. By this act, not only does the load of work become lesser but this act also makes the juniors feel nice.
• When delegating the work to junior, see that they are not overloaded. Give them as much work which they can easily complete.
• We should never speak bad about our immediate supervisor under whom we are working, when you say something, it reaches the senior, sometime later and you become the victim of his anger. Always avoid it.
• An expert and a talented employee is the one who finishes his assigned task well before his time and is ready to accept and learn more.
• If ever the need arises to scold your subordinates, then it should not be done publically; rather, he should be called upon in private and explained the weakness; perhaps, it may strike him and he may improve; otherwise, he might try to justify his deeds. Because we cannot make any person agree, while we are hurting his feelings.
• You should always present your work to your boss in person and never through you juniors, clerks, etc.
• In case the boss gives a wrong statement while any conversation, do not interfere there and then. Only after some time approach the authority and take permission to present your point of view. Instant cutting of his words may lead to his ego getting hurt. We should always avoid it.
• Do not overhear anybody’s conversation, nor should you try to read others’ papers or letters. These are one of the good points of a good personality.
• If case one asks you in writing, always reply back in writing only.
• In case we are forwarded with a huge task, then it should always be broken in small ones, so that work may complete easily and at a fast pace.
• Always complete the work in hand first. Never undertake any other job, while the initial is among the unattended or the incomplete. Always take the second job the assigment after the completion of the first one.
• When visiting you senior, always carry a pen and paper along, so that any clarification may be written and forwarded back after scrutiny.
• When on a official journey paying visit to some station, always finish you official work first and then if time permits personal work may be attended to.
• Whenever we wish to meet someone, always seek in prior appointment first and then meet him. In case we fail to take an appointment, then such a time may be chosen, when he meets the general public and even if it is not possible then request some time for the appointment. It is likely that your request shall be granted.
• If you wish to call a senior / respected person, then do not say ‘come here’. It is better to convey, ‘We are remembering you.’

Influence On Public Life
Man is a social animal. He has deep relations with the society. Whatsoever we are today, it is the sum-total of our society and culture only. He has to accomplish a lot of jobs in his public life daily. There are a few people who are highly successful and popular in their public life, while mostly the people remain unknown identities only. Keep in mind, I am someone and can also become as popular and successful as others are.

• It is our personal viewpoint whether to help or not to help others, but once help is extended, it should never be related on that person.
• To stare at any person beyond 3 seconds is bad maners.
• Many a time, when we demand help from others words of wisdom we receive instead. Always keep in mind, help and advice are two different things.
• He should never criticize any language or caste.
• Never expect or demand a special category for self. Always be in general category. It is always beneficial.
• We should always cross a road at specific parts only. When crossing our own crowded street and should the need arise, use hands to signal.
• Mostly people while walking move here and there which is not advisable, because it can lead to accidents at times. Hence look forward always.
• While travelling do not take food from strangers; always eat less than your requirement.
• We should always keep body parts within permissible length while travelling in a closed vehicle.
• Burning matchsticks, cigarettes, Bidi, should be extinguished and kept on a proper place.
• Avoid contact of electric wires and poles; it is possible that flow of current is on and you may be a victim of the same.
• Always give due respect to ladies, children, old persons, handicapped, etc, while travelling, sitting or standing. They should never be offended.
• Whenever you move out from house, your dress should be in accordance to the season and occasion. It is quite possible that we may come across some important personality and he on seeing us in awkward dress may formulate a wrong opinion.
• While in a theatre/cinema hall, watching a show it is bad to laugh; making a noise is against the norms. Never keep the feet in front seats.
• Never speak rudely or call bad names, to a shop-keeper/ rickshaw puller and poor people. Being poor does not mean that you have to behave rudely or with criticism. We can get a lot of respect from these classes.
• Many girls are in the habit of clapping their hands with other friends or talking loudly. One should avoid all these. By performing such acts probably you get attraction and people form a negative opinion about you.
• Many girls while walking with their friends put their arms around the neck or walk hand in hand, or while sitting on the motorcycle or scooter sitting too closely. All these habits are considered inappropriate and unwise.

Social Influence
Society is the first school of our life. By staying alone from the society it does not allow a person to be successful or popular. The practical battlefield of all of our activities such as education, values and behaviour pattern, training and instructions is the society itself. The society evaluates us to its standards and accordingly gives us the grade. How should we behave and live in a society and what precautions should be taken—everybody is always to know. While considering certain key areas, we can successfully make a separate identity and earn respect on the society.

• We should always try to find out the good habits of other people and as far as possible preach them far and wide and try to adopt them.
• While returning back from a condolence meeting or a funeral, never pay a visit to any other house, as it is considered to be a bad omen. You should go straight to your own home.
• Wear simple and plain clothes as condolence.
• When we respect someone from the core of our heart, always express it.
• Never act as a mediator on a controversial subject, behaviour of two people, because chances of overlooking certain facts are quite possible which may bring you bad name.
• Never ask personal questions; it is not your right.
• Asking a man’s income and a woman’s age is bad manners.
• Many Indians consider an empty vessel as a bad omen. Hence avoid going out with empty vessels.
• We should keep our conversation volume low such that it is audible to both the people. It is wrong to speak in very high and very low volumes.
• It is an adage, ‘Be slow to promise, but be quick to perform.’ The meaning is very evident.
• We should always be ready to serve the society as per our capacities and capabilities.
• We should always have sympathetic attitude towards plants, animals and birds.
• While driving a vehicle, the speed should be under limit and we should avoid overtaking. Do not play music at high volumes because it causes inconvenience to public and we are prone to accidents.
• Pressure horns should be avoided in restricted areas such as hospitals, schools and residential colonies.
• We should always keep cordial relations with our neighbours and colleagues and try to help them as and when the need arises.
• If you re rich, do not be haughty because at certain times it is the help of the people which matters most than money.
• At the time of natural calamities or an external attack, always associate with the countrymen and provide help accordingly.

Progress And Personal influence
To be successful and to have an impressive personality in all walks of life, possessing a fair colour and sharp features is not the criterion but factors of knowledge, self-confidence, determination, etc are the vital steps to succeed. To have complete personality in all respects, we should always keep on adopting good points.

• Our personality is connected with both mind and body and body and soul have a strong relationship thereby leaving a strong impression and impact on our personality.
• In order to make our area of personality more impressive, we should lay emphasis on the purity of our mind or in other words our thought process and ideas should always be positive.
• We can keep our minds disciplined, calm and patient with a regular practice of Yoga.
• Regular exercise and practising of yoga relieves us from many diseases and the body is filled with freshness and alertness.
• Always keep in mind that the food intake should be balanced and sprouted to provide energy and power to our body. What and which type of food and how much quantity is to be taken depends upon your age, nature, time-limit and physique. For further details you can consult your dietician.
• It is to be always remembered without labour nothing is possible. Whatever we want to obtain, we should always put in sincere efforts.
• We come across so many people who live in the world of future. They always keep on building castles in the air or daydream, for all the goodies on this earth as ifs and buts. But future never comes. And such people are never able to live their lives. We should always consider the present and the circumstances and plan accordingly to live gracefully with elegance because from the womb of present lies the dawn of future .
• Cultivate the habit of performing ‘SURYA PRANAM’ at sunrise daily. This exercise fills the body with new energy.
• Always sit in a ‘Vajraasana’ position after taking your meals for five minutes. It helps eliminate stomach related problems.
• Drink 8-10 glasses of water daily. It purifies the body and keeps your digestive system smooth.
• Develop the habit of taking warm water mixed with lime and honey. This would relieve you from fat.
• Try to practise ‘PRANAYAM’ daily. It helps relieve the diseases of respiratory tract on one hand while it gives an extra glow on your face on the other hand.
• Figure-conscious young ladies can do aerobics under the experienced instructor.
• To reduce your weight or to shed extra fat, do not enter the world of dieting. Losing weight suddenly leads to weakness and increases weight double-fold.
• You should not feel proud of your destiny nor should you look with inferiority to a poor person.
• Never enter a house, an office or a room without knocking and waiting for a while.
• Many people are in the habit of dragging their shoes and slippers which creates a noise. It is a sign of awkwardness. Take full steps while you lift your feet from the ground.
• Whenever you happen to take anything from somebody and give something to anybody, and to show regards and respect always use your right hand only. Usage of the left hand is considered to be bad manners.
• Whenever you give a gift to someone, always place the gift in the concerned hands. Never leave the gift anywhere without informing them.
• Many people are in the habit of prying in everybody’s life. One should end this.
• When we enquire of someone and are conveyed back that he is gone out, then we should not ask about his destination.
• Many people have a defect of watching other people by turning their heads; this reveals a hollow personality. We should meet face to face to whomsoever we want to meet, rather than turning back and looking.
• Do not stand with the hands in your pocket in front of your seniors.
• Demanding of pan, tobacco and cigarette is against the manners and so is its utilization.
• When we go to see a person off we should never turn our back unless the vehicle, train or plane has left for the destination.
• To impress, one of the key factors is not to work under pressure nor get the work done under pressure. The work done under pressure is not satisfactory.
• Many people are in the habit of not transversing the right path; instead, they take shortcuts. This reveals an opportunist personality which reveals that the person can ruin others or the society for the personal motive.
• Whenever we go to extend an invitation, always present in the hands of the concerned person and at his residence. Never hand over invitation cards on roadside meetings.
• According to ‘Neetivahan’ man should be one-sided or in other words man should not frequently change sides. A person working regularly at a place is considered to be a loyal person.
• Never leave a conference, a cinema hall, a gathering or a seminar abruptly. This leads to the disrespect of the host/orgainser.
• If you happen to be a guest of someone, it is always advisable to convey the period and the purpose of your stay, so that the host may adjust accordingly.
• Whenever food is served, it should always be served to the elder members first. Starting to serve the food to someone else is considered against the table manners.
• Whenever we take leave of the other person, we should preferably say good-bye in person to each and every individual.
• We should always keep in mind not to reach empty-handed while visiting our parents, teachers or our children.

At the party and other Functions

• Nowadays, it is a common feature to host parties on birthday functions or any other suitable occasion according to one’s capacities and capabilities. We arrange and participate in these functions as per our own convenience. If we keep certain basic principles in our mind, the charm of the party increases manifold.
• Avoid attending a party with the growing face and a growling look as this leads to the unpleasantries and lowers the enthusiasm. If a stranger wishes to extend his hand for introduction or for friendship, always welcome it with a smile.
• Do not walk with haughtiness; rather, think ways of helping the host.
• Women can contribute the help in the kitchen while men can entertain the guests.
• Keeping in view the occasion, do not forget to take a gift. If the party is not of specific nature, then your can carry your favourite dish along as a goodwill gesture.
• Choose your dress according to the nature of the party. Women may wear ornaments as the circumstances demand.
• In spite of one’s best efforts and preparations for the party, many a time some petty things are overlooked. It is always better to overlook such matters and not to announce from month to month.
• Always follow the manners and etiquettes towards elders, women and children during the party or function.
• If you are unable to attend the function, kindly convey the host your inability to attend the same.
• Do not criticize any eatable, dressing up or behaviour of any guest in a party.
• If you do not take a particular dish or drink, try to have all the information about the same. Do not take things for the formality and start taking them. It may land you in problems.
• If the host has not invited the children, discuss it to the host before taking them to the party.
• In case you are in the habit of having lunch and dinner with your friends in a restaurant very often, do not pay the bill always nor let others do the same. It is advisable to share the amount amongst selves, so that it does not turn out to be a burden on any single person.

In Domestic Life
After tying the knot of marriage both man and wife are bonded to each other throughout the life and through thick and thin. There are many instances in a married life where petty issues lead to the battle of egos whereby disturbing the harmony and the environment of the married life. We should know the art of impressing each other, to forgive and to forget, a lot of patience and tolerence for a smooth sailing. Let’s look at the final points of life which when adhered to makes one’s life charming and enduring.

• Give an opportunity to develop and express the creative talents of each other.
• Contribute to your fullest in helping out to develop your partner’s dormant character which would lead to the personality development.
• Every individual has his own likes and dislikes; one should always keep that in mind and respect them.
• Always try to understand the mood of your partner and act accordingly to harmonize the environment. In case your husband is worried over the official matters knee-deep, you should not be visiting to go out.
• Foul smell of your sweat and bad breath and to laugh loudly are a few deficiencies of a person which may be conveyed with politeness without hurting other’s sentiments.
• If your partner has any shortcoming, it should be brought forward; it becomes your moral and social duty to remove it.

Friendship with Nature

Man has a very indepth, peculiar and everlasting relationship with Nature, probably it is due to this association, natural incidents leave an everlasting impression on our minds and soul. As and when we are close to Nature, the sunrise of health and wealth & happiness is even more closer to us. Whenever we tend to be inclined towards unrealities and artificial objects, the demands of uncertainly float over us. Nature plays a very important role in the development of our true personality and its contribution is invaluable and we should always take advantage of the same.
We should teach our children to look for the beauty of Nature. They should try to understand the various characters of Nature, i.e. shape, size, climate, humans and animals and vegetation of the earth. The gifts of Nature are the eternal messages of the Almighty God, which certainly are true and great. Only a knowledgeable man can see and hear this. This is the law of Nature that you should follow the same and keep on receiving gifts regularly. Mother Nature says that I have provided you with firmness which gives you the power of endurance so that you are able to build up such a character which would help you to fulfil your goals. Like a mother keeps toys in front of a child he can grasp the same and become strong. Similarly, Nature places many games in front of you for you to play and to develop your powers and sources of energies. When you dedicate yourself to the work then you start proceeding on the path leading to success. Bright had rightly said-:
“A person who loves Nature, he sees different images in it.”
Nature talks in different dialects and languages and when a person is filled with sorrow, Nature associates herself equally in healing the sorrows of man, thus providing him with solace, consolation, love and affection which a person may or may not visualize.
William Wordsworth also writes, “The blossomed daffodils of the spring season can teach human beings of the basic word values so much that knowledge of all the shades of the world put together is unable to teach.”

• See the first rays of the sun; your day begin will auspiciously.
• Always wake up before sunlight. You will have a sound health.
• It has been rightly said–

“Jo Jagat hai so pavat hai Jo sovat hai vo khovat hai.”

• An early morning walk fills your body with freshness and alertness.
• Dew drops, greenery and freshness is the morning helps to build your calmness.
• Once in a year, you should travel along with your family to a hill station or a sea beach. This helps relieve you from the tension and fills you with fresh energy.
• Moonlit walks are very romantic. We should often undertake them after dinner.