Every person wants to succeed in his life. Success can be defined in many ways. In simple words, reaching your goal or meeting your objective means success. Although every person aspires for success, dreams of happiness and prosperity but it is not necessary everyone succeeds. Nor does the light of achievement reach and the person is lost in the darkness of poverty, and loses interest in himself. By changing our attitudes and personality, we can achieve the highest goals. By considering small matters and by executing in a planned and systematic manner, we can achieve success and appreciation of everyone.
HAPPINESS VERSUS WORRY
Happiness is considered as the highest reward of living. The effort of man is aimed either towards his own happiness or those around him. Happy people are therefore generally engaged in activities which at most times are enjoyable in themselves. They build things they are glad to see coming into existence. Bringing up a family is one of the greatest sources of happiness. Artists, writers and men of science are happily enjoying the creation of results of their labour.
Give importance to self-control
Define personality? If this question is put forth to the people of all capacities, the replies received would not match. Mostly people consider the external, physical aspects of a person as PERSONALITY, and in case we are cautious of our surroundings, we come across so many instances, wherein a person with solid body, attractive face and well dressed, does leave an everlasting impression. In fact, on seeing any person we should not give our judgement of his personality because personality does not constitute of external factors only. At the end of the 21st century, many scientists and psychologists have conducted thorough research on personality. The word ‘personality’ has been put forward to various tests on the scale of performance by various leading psychologists.
The psychologists are of the opinion that the level of recognition at the workplace and in the society of a particular person is a simple meaning of personality. The personality of a person is also determined by his process of thinking, his behaviour in general, working methodology, attitude towards life and the style of living. The opinion formed by the people in contact with the persons concerned is also one of the judgements determining the personality of the person. Not only this it is of prime importance what we formulate the opinion of others. Now even the psychologists have agreed upon this fact that both negative and positive thoughts play a role in moulding the personality of a person. The role played by the values imbibed, are education, our standard of living, our social set-up and our childhood. They are of vital importance in laying of the foundation of our personality.
Road To Success
“Compliance of duty should always be prime importance. Do not build castles in the air. A person’s success should be counted by his honest working and one should be contented with the results thereof. Do not speak ill of ugliness, praising beauty should be the outlook of our life. Never be desperate, fearful and depressed. Always look towards the brighter side of the life. Do not be a beggar; be a giver. Develop self-confidence in yourself. Remove haughtiness and cultivate self-reliance with the help of your time, money and labour; help others to rise. Help others but do not try to take revenge. Try to cultivate high ambitions with simple living and high thinking. Always remember, leading a simple and a happy life is an art in itself.
–Pt. Sh Ram Sharma Acharya
The co-ordination of natural, psychological and practicality of a human being combined together influences the personality. During our childhood, we do not understand the importance of our social environment but as we grow up we all are able to understand the attitude of people towards us. The public opinion leads as towards self-reliability and progress.
To be stagnate and motionless is not the nature of a human being and we can make changes in our personality in accordance with our wishes and desires. In reality, the sum-total of our education and our thoughts is nothing but our personality. Although there are certain aspects of our personality which are hard to change yet by and large our self-confidence and self-discipline are responsible in making us capable and impressive.
Leading philosopher ‘Socrates’ has commented, “Different people have certain similarities of their personality but any two people having a similar personality is not possible.”
Sensations Of Personality Development
Once there was a time, people lived satisfactorily with whatsoever means they had but with the change of time everything is changed, so much so the attitude towards life has also changed. Today’s youth is highly conscious of his personality. In reality, the factors behind our achievements are our positive nature and impressive personality. It is really very difficult to trace out a person in this world, who claims to have a complete personality. If we put in sincere efforts, we can definitely bring change in our personality. In order to make our personality impressive and to fulfil the dream of hypnotizing others with our charms, we should develop such characteristics in our personality whose sum-total leads to successful personality. Whereas on one hand, the chances of success improve while on the other hand, our social and personal contacts become more cordial.
The role of self-discipline is of crucial importance in the development of our personality. By self-discipline we mean a control in our habits, thoughts and daily affairs. For instance, you wish to wake up at dawn, but you are unable to do so; this is because of the absence of self-discipline. Not only this, in spite of taking a decision, many a time to leave a particular habit and inability to do so also reflects our lack of self-discipline.
These people who wish to make their lives highly successful, they should have full control on their emotions, impulses, anger, excitement and thoughts. To develop the habit of taking interest in your environment and surroundings is also the part of developing your personality. To understand this expanded world from all directions is entirely difficult but as far as possible we should always be eager to learn good things of our country, culture and people. To have a standing in our society, we should firstly recognize ourselves; we should be in the position to judge our good and bad habits. We should evaluate our capabilities with the fair understanding then and only then we can convert our shortcomings into positive aspects which can be helpful in determining our personality.
Real Valuation Of Conditions
Whenever we try to evaluate and analyse ourselves we should always be in a position to judge the circumstances fairly leading us to succeed. We should be free from our prejudice and have an impartial viewpoint as life shows its different colours at different times. At times it is very happy going and at times it is very distressful but sensibility lies in the fact that instead of running away from the circumstances, it is better to face them. We should have a practical approach while fixing our objectives. Our decisions should be logical, reflecting patience and intelligence. To get washed away in the walks of emotions is not a sensible act; to be haughty on our achievements is not the sign of impressive personality. Do not get distressed by failures as happiness is felt after sorrows, which is the way of Nature. There are no shortcuts to experience because they are the biggest lessons of life. Instead of accepting defeats at the hands of adverse circumstances, we should take steps to convert them to our advantage. Never overlook your long-term gains just for short-term goals.
All-round Development
It is of prime importance to respect the desires and the feelings of the people in your society, in order to develop your overall personality. Never attempt to take any such steps which may lead to the destruction of emotions, near and dear ones. In the words of famous poetess Smt. Anjum Rehbur:-
“Haath yun haath mein nahin milta
Muft saugat mein nahin milta
Pyaar milta hai pyaar se aakhir,
Pyaar khairat mein nahin milta.”
People with the positive attitude do not find any difficulties in the upliftment of the society and in case we are able to get rid of all contradictions, our life can be more adjustable and meaningful. The difference between our words and deeds is an example of contradictions which should be avoided at all costs. To be vigilant against the development of your personality which leads to the heights wherein we can see our signatures written in golden words on the horizons of success. It’s true of expecting flowers in return of thorns is equally well accepted norm of the people living in the society. The greatness in your personality will not only bring satisfaction to you but the society and your family members will also be benefitted. Thus make this world more beautiful and civilized to live in.
Keep in mind
- Do not praise yourself. It is of no value to others.
- It is a fact the everybody feels elated in hearing his name time and again. Aa far as possible, we should address other by our name only and so should the correspondence be done.
- We develop our own world; should we help others, others would help us.
Principles of Truth
“Those who do not make best use of their time, repent on the passing of the same. Those who do not listen to the advice of elders and disobey their parents do not know how to behave in a civilized manner, not able to distinguish between the good and the bad and do not act wisely and always blame others for their failures- such people never impress anyone.
(WHAT DO YOU THINK)
(YOUR DECISION)
ACTION PLAN
- What are the steps to get achievements?
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…………………………………………………………………………………….. - What are the benefits of the real evaluation of circumstances?
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